Hey, I have a lot of respect for all you who like to perform oral sex (cunnilingus) because there are too few of you out there. And I'm not the only woman who says this. Furthermore, some of you who are giving it the old college try are not doing too well, so maybe this little lesson will help you out.When a woman finds someone who gives good oral sex, she's found a treasure she's not going to let go of too quickly.
Peer Health recommends the use of dental dams, especially if you are not familiar with a partner’s sexual history. Sexually-transmitted diseases can be spread by oral sex on a woman, although the rates of transmission are lower. There are different levels of risk, depending on how many other people each partner has sex with and whether or not each partner uses protection with other lovers. Consider the testing offered at the Health Center. Please be sure to discuss safe sex with your partner, even if you choose to not use protection while performing cunnilingus. Visit us at Peer Health, and we can tell you more.
You should also be careful about having reasonably clean fingers. Dirty fingers inserted into the vagina may cause infections. Before you begin, stop and look at what you see. Beautiful, isn't it? There is nothing that makes a woman’s body more unique than her sex organs. They come in all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside and some have thick luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nested in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent fuzz. Appreciate your woman's unique qualities and tell her what makes her special. Many women are a good deal more verbal than men during love-making. They also respond more to verbal love, which means, the more you talk to her, the easier it will be to get her off. So all the time you're petting and stroking her beautiful pussy, talk to her about it. Communication in love-making helps each partner to learn how to better satisfy his or her lover. Now look at it again. Gently pull the lips apart and look at her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. Now spread the tops of her lips until you can find her clit. Women have clits in all different sizes, just like guys have different sized cocks. It doesn't mean a thing as far as her capacity for orgasm. All it means is more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin. First, before going directly down to her pussy, you should touch other parts of her body to get her excited. Kiss her in the mouth and over the rest of her body. A woman’s nipples are good erogenous zones, but also try her neck, sides, ears, the area right below the belly button, and even her armpits. Kiss, massage, and lick her. Explore every inch of her skin, and learn your partner’s special spots. Searching is half the fun! Approach her pussy slowly. Your woman may love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her pussy, then float away. Make her anticipate it. Whenever you touch a woman's pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her clit because it doesn't have any juices of its own and it is extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick to it if it is dry and that hurts. But you don't want to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that. Before she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled. If you are using a dental dam, it might help to add (non-petroleum based) lubrication to the side of the dam covering her clit. Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her. After you've done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she's straining to get more of you closer to her, then put your lips right on top of her slit. To put on a dental dam, stretch the piece of rubber (non-microwavable saran wrap works just as well) between her legs, and hold it against her mound. Go down onto her, pushing into the dam with your tongue. Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy flesh. Gently spread her legs more with your hands. Everything you do with a woman you're about to perform oral sex on must be done gently. Tongue-fuck her. This teases her because by now she wants some attention given to her clit. See if her clit has gotten hard enough to peek out of its covering. If so, lick it. If you can't see it, it might still be waiting for you underneath. So bring your tongue up to the top of her slit and feel for her clit. You may barely experience its presence. But even if you can't feel the tiny pearl, you can make it rise by licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now and press into her skin. Gently pull the lips away and flick your tongue against the clit, hood covered or not. Do this quickly. This should cause her legs to shudder. When you sense she's getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into your mouth. Start to suck gently and watch her face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck even harder. Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don't fight her. Hang on, and keep your mouth on her clit. Don't let go. That's what she'll be saying too: 'Don't stop. Don't ever stop!' There's a reason for that: most partners stop too soon. This is something worth learning about and worth learning to do well. There's another thing you can do to intensify your woman's pleasure. You can finger-fuck her while she's enjoying your clit-licking talents. Before, during or after. She'll really like it. In addition to the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three is too wide and therefore can't get deep enough. Make sure they're wet so you don't irritate her skin. Slide them inside, slowly at first, then a little faster. Fuck her with them rhythmically. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her breathing. She'll let you know what to do. If there's any doubt, check her out for symptoms. Each woman is unique. You may have one whose nipples get hard when she's excited or only when she's having an orgasm. Your girl might flush red or begin to tremble. Get to know her symptoms and you'll be a more sensitive lover. When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven's sakes, don't let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now. If you keep on going, you may bring your partner to have multiple orgasms. A woman stays excited for a full hour after she's had an orgasm. One woman was clocked at 56 orgasms at one sitting. Not all women can easily achieve multiple orgasms, and most probably won’t have 56 in one sitting, but it is worth trying! The last advice I have for you is this: After you've made her come, don't leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she's come all the way down. A woman requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments aftersex. Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experiences you can have. But it's what you make it. Take your time, practice often, pay attention to your lover's signals, and most of all, enjoy yourself.
and to a MAN
It's sad to think that many lovers don't appreciate just how much fun oral sex can be. The reason for this is they don't know how to do it well and so it doesn't end up being much fun. The man doesn't have a good time and his partner feels like a failure. But here's the good news: It's easy to learn how to perform terrific oral sex. Before you start, though, think for a moment about protection. The best way to avoid sexually-transmitted diseases is by always wearing protection when putting a penis into an orifice. This is especially true if you are not familiar with your partner’s history, and if your partner has not been recently tested for STDs. However, the rates of transmission of some STDs, including AIDS, are much lower for oral sex than it is for vaginal and anal intercourse. It’s your call- how much risk you are willing to take is up to you. A blow job can still be fun with the right kind of condom, such as one with flavored lube. For having good oral sex, it doesn't matter what setting you choose; you can be home in bed or in a parked car, but seek whatever level of privacy you need to feel relaxed and sexy. Let's say you're on a couch. You're with a man you like and you know he'd love to have a good blow job about now. Slip down on the floor between his legs and open his fly. Reach in and touch his prick. If he's hot for you, it will already be hard. If he's nervous, it may still be bent up inside his shorts. Grab hold of his cock and lean up to his face and kiss him. See if you can feel a response down below. Any movement is a good sign. Now pull his cock out and see how it stands. If it's straight up, you're doing great, otherwise, here's what to do: Pull his balls out. If the pants are too tight, pull them down. Now hold his balls in your left hand and his cock in your right. Squeeze it gently down toward the bottom of the shaft and get ready to suck. Run your tongue over your lips to get them good and wet and look into your man's face. Men love to watch. Now open your mouth just slightly to tease and excite your man and come very close to his cock. Breathe on him, blow on him. hot breath. Stick your tongue out again and reach for him, tease him. Making sure your tongue is wet, begin at the bottom of his shaft and lick upwards, slowly. Turn your head sideways and pretend to take a bite of him, gently setting your teeth into his flesh. Wet him again with your tongue and use your hand to spread the liquid around if necessary. Flavored lube is a good idea. A wet cock looks and sounds a lot sexier than a dry one. Your left had meanwhile is massaging those balls, perhaps scratching them lightly with your fingernails. You may also want to reach behind and underneath the balls to get to that ever-so-sensitive area just before the anus. Since the muscle that cause erection originates back there, this will produce a reaction in his cock. After you've licked his shaft lots of times and it's all wet and hard, your man is going to start squirming with frustration if you don't start getting serious. A quick look up at his face will let you know when you're taking things too far. Teasing is great...to a point. A little experience will educate you as to just when that point has been reached. On one of your upward swings with your tongue, from the base of his shaft to the rim of his knob, don't stop. Continue your long, wet lick over the top of his cock, lingering at the hole in the center. Stick your tongue into it, if you can, but don't suck the head yet. Now run your tongue around the rim of his knob, all the way around, making frequent passes on the tender skin directly facing you. This is where most men are the most sensitive. But not all men! That's one thing you have to learn to do, as soon as you're comfortable, that is. Ask questions. Each man is unique and so is his cock. Close in on that cockhead like it was chocolate ice-cream and take the whole knob into your mouth. Hold it there. Listen to him moan. Now down quickly and take as much of his cock as you can get into your mouth. Don't worry, you won't choke. If you bend your neck in just the right way, you can take it clear into your throat. Stay there, with the cock down your mouth, for just a moment. Feel it inside of you. At this point you can do several things. This is one of them: Slide back up to the tip of the cock and flick your tongue against it. Moving as fast as he can handle it (don't let him come yet), slide up and down on his cock. If he gets too close to coming, stop, or at least slow down. If you can't get all the way down to the bottom of his prick, you can cheat a little by using that right hand of yours to complete the sensation of deep throating him. It still looks as if you've got the whole thing in your mouth and still feels like it. You can also slide your fingers, made in an O-shape around the shaft, up and down with the rhythm of your sucking. That's another thing. Besides just mouthing the cock, you can suck it which is quite different. There are deep-sucks and little ones and both feel great. Your man may have a preference, however, so watch his reactions. Taking just the knob in your mouth, suck it as if it were a nipple or straw. The other suck is a long, sweeping one, where you take the whole cock and suck it all the way up like you would a popsicle and then go back and do it again, sucking on the way down as well. Here is an important thing to know: Any of these moves will feel great the first few times or more, but after a while, it's as if the cock gets immune to feeling. When you sense this, it's time to move onto your next play. You don't want the cock to go to sleep. You want it constantly stimulated, almost, but not quite, to the point of orgasm. Which is just about where we are now. Move your right hand all the way to the base of the cock and squeeze it there. This will cause the shaft to fill and thicken, and by now the knob will be shining and smooth. Continue to take the prick into your mouth and suck and try out all your various moves until you know the man can't stand anymore and he's going to blast off. What you do now is between you and your lover. Personally, I like to watch it shoot. It's amazing how much of that stuff comes out and how far it shoots. If you want to watch, you'll feel it coming with your right hand and know when to back off. You might want to swallow it, some lovers do, and lots of guys like to have it swallowed. Be careful to back up a little when it goes off though or you'll gag on it and that's not too romantic. Take it into your mouth and hold it there and then swallow it. WARNING: this is considered risky behavior that could lead to HIV and other types of infection by some health professionals. Another solution, and this is a nice one too, unless you're making love where you can't make a mess, is to let the warm, wonderful juices gush into a condom and then slide the condom off of the wet cock. Making sure that either you have no open sores on your hands, or that you are wearing latex gloves, rub the cum over his body. It makes him so slippery and delightful to touch! You'll want to run your hands through the cum, feeling that hard cock all the way up, smoothing the glistening cum over the knob. This makes a great sensual image too. Now you've given your lover a blow job that he'll not forget. Believe me, if you follow my instructions, this guy will want to see a lot more of you. I've heard from men that one partner in fifty knows how to give good head. The rest act like it's a big favor. Which is another point I should make. If you don't like to give head and you've tried to learn to like it and it still doesn't work, don't give up. Maybe you'll like it more as you grow older.